Monday, August 20, 2012

Fine Is Not A Feeling

Fine is not a feeling.
I heard that this weekend.  I'm blanking as to where I heard it, but it got me thinking.  Fine isn't a feeling. It's what people say I say when I don't want to expose my true feelings.  It's the scapegoat of feelings. 

Don't get me wrong.  I fully support people keeping their feelings to themselves and saying "I'm FINE," but I do believe that it means
I don't want to tell you how I'm feeling
or I'm hiding something 
or I hurt badly
or Why the heck do you care?
or I'm working on it...got it under control
or I'm embarrassed to say the truth.
Regardless of the reason, fine isn't a feeling in my opinion.
I say it a lot.
And I generally say it when I don't want to talk...which is frequent.
I like to handle things on my own, in my own time, according to my rules.
This causes issues in relationships, but it's how I am. If I feel forced into making a decision I am not sure about, it gets ugly inside me.  I am a worrier. Period.
The more I worry, the tenser I get, the more I retreat inside myself, the more I cry.
Crying helps though.

Wow.  That was a tangent.
Here is a pretty sky picture to lighten the mood. 
I love the sky.  Like totally LOVE. 


Friday evening.

Saturday evening.

Mother Nature delivered once again.  Love her!

Much love.




5 comments:

  1. So true! I'm a worrier as well. It's like a disease. However, I'm not a crier. Interesting how different everyone is with expressing feelings. I guess the key to relationships is understanding how people express their feelings. Knowing that "I'm fine" means give me space for one person, I'm tired for another, etc.

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    1. Worrying is like a disease. Everyone is different for sure and I am 100% a crier, but generally when I am alone. I don't like to cry on someone's shoulder. I like to cry alone. It is definitely key in relationships to understand what someone means by "I'm fine." It could mean "I need you." Everyone is different.

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  2. I say fine when people ask me how my day at work was. I say fine when I really do not know why I am in a bad mood. You are totally right by saying its a way to avoid talking. But a lot of times for me its a way to stop myself from complaining about life. Really my life is amazing and great and I am so thankful, so when I am feeling sorry for myself I am fine. Lol does that make any sense?

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    1. That makes perfect sense. I say fine when explaining my day as well. Fine is a word I say when I don't want to talk and it means different things for everyone.
      I love my life as well...even the hard parts.

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  3. I'll usually say fine when I know I'm being irrational due to my femininity (hey, we all know it happens) and I want to convey that yes, I AM upset, but no, I DON'T want to talk about it. I know that if I was being more rational it wouldn't be such a big deal, so why make it a big deal right then? I sometimes try to change the subject and lighten up a little, so an awkward silent treatment-esque period doesn't follow.

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